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WantsOut · 01-21-2007, 08:20 AM

My exAH had many problems, but respecting me was not one of them. Even wasted he always treated me well and never verbally abused me.

Being an alcoholic is not the only thing these people are - it's just a part of them. They are whole people too. Maybe on top of being drunks they are verbally abusive jerks who enjoy the feeling of power they get when they crush the women who love them. But understand that they are two different things, not related. Not every drunk is an abusive *******. It's not the disease. And that doesn't make the crap he said to you true either, it just means he was trying to hurt you and you were giving him a pass.

I say the time for passes is over.

01-21-2007, 08:20 AM	#4 (permalink)
WantsOut Becoming a Butterfly Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: New York, NY Posts: 884	My exAH had many problems, but respecting me was not one of them. Even wasted he always treated me well and never verbally abused me. Being an alcoholic is not the only thing these people are - it's just a part of them. They are whole people too. Maybe on top of being drunks they are verbally abusive jerks who enjoy the feeling of power they get when they crush the women who love them. But understand that they are two different things, not related. Not every drunk is an abusive ******. It's not the disease. And that doesn't make the crap he said to you true either, it just means he was trying to hurt you and you were giving him a pass. I say the time for passes is over*. __________________ Susan: Arthur, a real woman could stop you from drinking. Arthur: She'd have to be a real BIG woman.