[Sugah]

One of the things that helped me the most, northbelle, in dealing with resentments that I just could not seem to turn over was something I heard a woman say: "Acceptance does not mean Approval." I couldn't change what happened, no matter what. I knew my part in the past, but I just could not let others "off the hook" for what I felt was their part. The longer I focused on my role as a victim, the longer I stayed sick and allowed my abuser to continue hurting me. I prayed -- for the serenity to accept the things I could not change.

It didn't come easy. And it didn't come at thirteen days sober -- I wish I could tell you it did. If your sponsor is willing to walk steadily and as quickly as you can through the first three steps, I do believe that when you're ready to tackle a moral housecleaning, you'll feel better about this. Maybe even before.

Peace & Love,
Sugah