[laurie6781]

Please be absolutely sure that step 1 is down to the very core of your being. That there are no doubts left.

Please remember that Step 1 is the FOUNDATION of your recovery. You I am sure want your recovery built on hard granite, not sand. You will be working and living the steps the rest of your recovery life.

When and where I came into recovery there were many 'old timers' who really advocated 1 step a year. I 'pooh poohed' like a good alkie and throughout my first year swore I was working on steps 2 and 3 and started my 4th step (yeah right, the great american novel) however, when I finally reached that year, was when I truly and honestly felt it to the very core of my being that I was ABSOLUTELY POWERLESS over alcohol and that MY LIFE HAD BEEN TOTALLY UNMANAGEABLE all those years. No more yeah buts, were left, it was an undeniable fact.

As to a sponsor you are free to change sponsors anytime you want, but best check your motives. For me, I stayed with the first one I had until she passed when I was 18 1/2 years sober and then ask her sponsor to be my sponsor.

A sponsor is not going to tell you what you want to hear, and if you keep asking enough people the same question you will eventually hear what you want to hear. A sponsor is a GUIDE. Sometimes the most important thing a sponsor can do for a sponsee is nothing so that the sponsee slows down.

Tazman I do believe every one of us has been where you are now and in a hurry, When I took my 1 year cake, there was a fellow getting a 20 year cake, I commented to my sponsor, oh to be where he is, 20 years WOW. She looked at me, then looked at me some more and said "now look at all you would have missed. You will get 20 years my dear, ONE DAY AT A TIME." roflmao and she was so right.

I am so grateful my sponsor helped me to slow down, I would have missed so much.

JMHO

Love and hugs,