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Okietiger....whether you continue the friendship is up to you, but History Teach is right. Lovelife has come here for support and help...and I personally can feel pain in her words through many of her posts.

I may be wrong, but I'm going to stick my neck out and guess both of you are quite young? Teenagers possibly? Best and History Teach are both wise and caring people who have been working on their own recovery for many, many years. I am 30, but have only been working on my own for about 2 now. And in those relatively short 2 years I have have grown in so many ways that I would have thought impossible before. The difference from before and now is that I (just like Best and History Teach) have set out to learn from our mistakes and grow through our efforts.

Lovelife...you can do this too. It's not as hard as it may seem. Just look inside, recognize what you would like to improve on and then continue seeking outside support as you are now.

Okietiger, I honestly don't think Lovelife hurt you or anyone else on purpose. I can tell that she values friendship way too much to have done this to just be cruel. There had to be some inner feelings going on inside that led to her actions. And an attempted rape still has some of the same painful aftermaths and emotions as a successful rape.

Try to put yourself in her shoes for a moment and listen to what many of us have said in here threads in this forum.

And please know that the fact that she is seeking support here is to be commended in its entirety... for much of the population never look inwardly to take responsibility for themselves....even those twice and three times my age. So for her to be doing this now is commendable and isn't something to scoff at by any standard....nor that you are here and probably doing the same wonderful service for yourself as well.

Hugs to you both. May both your days be full of many blessings and joys to come.

Jenna