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1day · 11-09-2006, 09:45 AM

Sorry, I don't have any answers for you, but I am in a very similar situation.

I have had many talks with my mom....similar to you.

I have told her that a relationship with a higher power is a personal thing.

I have told her that just like light and dark can not occupy the same space at the same time, faith and fear CANNOT co-exist. I have told her to have faith that her God will have a place for me.

So far none of this has had much impact. She chooses to worship the God of fear. I choose to believe in the God of MY understanding.

One of the things that I realize too is that my relationship with my higher power is an evolving relationship. One day I might feel the need to join a faith community to share my faith. Where I am at today, however, is that I live my faith like you "through works" and working my program. When I was drinking, I had moments of "outward faith". It was a mile wide but only an inch deep. It amounted to attending church on Sunday. (well at least I was there in body!)

Now in sobriety, have a simple but satisfying relationship with my God. I ask for help in the morning and through out the day. I actually do remember to thank him for the help and guidance I get. That is a huge difference from before. I don't attend church regularly right now, but I am not saying that I might not down the road - I am open to what my higher power intends for me.

The bottom line is that the god I used to worship was only involved for about 1 hour every Sunday. The God I now worship is with me all the time. I'll take that!

My mom's worries and conversion attempts for me are her choice...probably part of her codependency. While she "prays for my soul" I quietly pray for her conversion from a fear based belief to a faith based belief...with or without attendance at church.

Sorry for rambling.

11-09-2006, 09:45 AM	#3 (permalink)
1day Living in the present Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: Regina, SK Posts: 9	Sorry, I don't have any answers for you, but I am in a very similar situation. I have had many talks with my mom....similar to you. I have told her that a relationship with a higher power is a personal thing. I have told her that just like light and dark can not occupy the same space at the same time, faith and fear CANNOT co-exist. I have told her to have faith that her God will have a place for me. So far none of this has had much impact. She chooses to worship the God of fear. I choose to believe in the God of MY understanding. One of the things that I realize too is that my relationship with my higher power is an evolving relationship. One day I might feel the need to join a faith community to share my faith. Where I am at today, however, is that I live my faith like you "through works" and working my program. When I was drinking, I had moments of "outward faith". It was a mile wide but only an inch deep. It amounted to attending church on Sunday. (well at least I was there in body!) Now in sobriety, have a simple but satisfying relationship with my God. I ask for help in the morning and through out the day. I actually do remember to thank him for the help and guidance I get. That is a huge difference from before. I don't attend church regularly right now, but I am not saying that I might not down the road - I am open to what my higher power intends for me. The bottom line is that the god I used to worship was only involved for about 1 hour every Sunday. The God I now worship is with me all the time. I'll take that! My mom's worries and conversion attempts for me are her choice...probably part of her codependency. While she "prays for my soul" I quietly pray for her conversion from a fear based belief to a faith based belief...with or without attendance at church. Sorry for rambling.