Maturity in alcoholism is stunted when using begins. Emotional growth is stopped, as it is numbed by the usage.
They say that an alcoholic who comes into recovery is emotionally the age where he began to drink, many usually took a first drink around 11-13. So imagine, when you start numbing yourself to all thehappenings inyour life, you have no mature ability to grow and deal with situations. Thats why they seek enablers to handle thier problems.
So, will she grow into a mature, capable person? Yes.......if people dont enable her and she works her spiritual program sincerely enough.
To help her, you must never do for her what she must do for herself.
Recently, my son's guitar broke, I suggested he call a friend of mine who knows about guitars....he got all "Shy", didnt want to make the call and ask for help, wanted me to do it. I said no because I want him to learn how to be responsible for himself....he is 14, can make plenty of calls, IF he wants thehelp bad enough.
He called.
Did for himself....becoming mature. Nice!