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kennesaw · 10-17-2006, 01:47 PM

Hello everyone,

I am writing this in hopes of forwarding the thread to my husbands father and stepmother. I thought it might help for them (as well myself!) to read a little about these issues and hear experiences and advice from other people. People that arent connected to me or my husband in any way. It seems as though they believe that my husband isnt ill, that instead he is just stressed and wants out of our marriage. Given the history of paranoid skitz and bipolar in his family....I believe there is something serious happening!

Here is a little history of what is happening here:
My husband and I had been getting along very well for years now. We've been working on the house, we were trying to have a baby. We were happy and talked about the future with great optimisim

Then, this June, one week he became a little impatient and distant for no reason. By the end of that same week he came home from work ranting and raving....totally manic and delusional

He started telling me:
His life was in danger
The FBI had bugged our house and were following him
That he was secretly taped and that the conversation was put online for everyone to hear
That CNN and other tv shows were running stories about him
He thought his life was ruined
To complicate matters.....HE THOUGHT I WAS IN ON IT!

He all of a sudden wanted nothing to do with me. Said we couldnt work things out, that he couldnt trust me since I had been lying to him for YEARS about this conspiracy against him

I was gutted, frightened and concerned

I got him to the ER after days of mania. He was admitted for about 2 days and given antipyschotic meds to take. He was not given a diagonsis since he had pot in his system. He's been a pot smoker for a long time and started smoking a lot when these fears hit him...self medicating. They needed time for the drugs to disapate before they could tell what was wrong

He only took the medicine for a week or so. He thought it was part of 'the plot' The delusions have never stopped. The fear never stopped. HE HAS NO IDEA THAT ANYTHING IS WRONG!!! During this time he has gone back and forth with his feelings for me. One minute he says he loves me and never plans on leaving. He'll feel this way for a few weeks or a few days, and then go back to hating me. His whole life revolves around these delusions and fears

These are the symptoms he's displayed since June
Stopped working
shows no emotion
doesnt think straight....gets distracted..doesnt hear what you're saying
thinks about the past 24/7!
doesnt talk, responds with as few words as possible or not at all
shows no concern for others, doesnt think anything thru
is always angry or frustrated, the smallest things upset him
Doesnt sleep at all.....maybe a broken 2 or 3 hours a night
Shows no interest in anything he used to love or enjoy
Claims he has severe back pain but wont see a dr to get treated...uses it as an excuse not to work
Wants to be ALONE! Spends all his time sitting by himself
He's done some very concerning things trying to confront people about these delusions. Out of fear of being committed again, he has stopped most of this
Bought some weird things that cost a lot of money
One day he is depressed and doesnt move, the next day he is wired and outwardly phobic again
He's spent most of his time searching for evidence of these plots against him.

I am the only one that knows what he has been doing and saying this whole time. He has fooled most others.

Now he is planning on leaving soon because he has been 'unhappy' with me. Though if you ask him, he cant say why he is unhappy, or when it started, or what he wants instead or what he plans on doing with his life. He just yells...."I just want to be alone!!"

Does ANYONE here have experience with something like this? I am so concerned for him. I am gutted he wants a divorce and will be leaving me soon. I fear he will never get better without medication and that he will never see what is really going on. I believe he needs his family and friends to show some tough love at this point and get him medical care!!!

The family doesnt believe me and doesnt seem to want to believe there is anything wrong with him. I dont want to make this longer than I have, but believe me, they wont notice things and he wont ever confide in anyone. He is hell bent on never getting treated and never going back to a dr. He will lie cheat and steal to make sure that doesnt happen

I hope that some of your replies might help the family recognize some of these symptoms and start to truly recognize that the problem isnt me.....its an illness that should and can be treated!!

Thank you!

10-17-2006, 01:47 PM	#1 (permalink)
kennesaw Member Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: georgia Posts: 6	Delusions, psychosis and paranoia...advice needed Hello everyone, I am writing this in hopes of forwarding the thread to my husbands father and stepmother. I thought it might help for them (as well myself!) to read a little about these issues and hear experiences and advice from other people. People that arent connected to me or my husband in any way. It seems as though they believe that my husband isnt ill, that instead he is just stressed and wants out of our marriage. Given the history of paranoid skitz and bipolar in his family....I believe there is something serious happening! Here is a little history of what is happening here: My husband and I had been getting along very well for years now. We've been working on the house, we were trying to have a baby. We were happy and talked about the future with great optimisim Then, this June, one week he became a little impatient and distant for no reason. By the end of that same week he came home from work ranting and raving....totally manic and delusional He started telling me: His life was in danger The FBI had bugged our house and were following him That he was secretly taped and that the conversation was put online for everyone to hear That CNN and other tv shows were running stories about him He thought his life was ruined To complicate matters.....HE THOUGHT I WAS IN ON IT! He all of a sudden wanted nothing to do with me. Said we couldnt work things out, that he couldnt trust me since I had been lying to him for YEARS about this conspiracy against him I was gutted, frightened and concerned I got him to the ER after days of mania. He was admitted for about 2 days and given antipyschotic meds to take. He was not given a diagonsis since he had pot in his system. He's been a pot smoker for a long time and started smoking a lot when these fears hit him...self medicating. They needed time for the drugs to disapate before they could tell what was wrong He only took the medicine for a week or so. He thought it was part of 'the plot' The delusions have never stopped. The fear never stopped. HE HAS NO IDEA THAT ANYTHING IS WRONG!!! During this time he has gone back and forth with his feelings for me. One minute he says he loves me and never plans on leaving. He'll feel this way for a few weeks or a few days, and then go back to hating me. His whole life revolves around these delusions and fears These are the symptoms he's displayed since June Stopped working shows no emotion doesnt think straight....gets distracted..doesnt hear what you're saying thinks about the past 24/7! doesnt talk, responds with as few words as possible or not at all shows no concern for others, doesnt think anything thru is always angry or frustrated, the smallest things upset him Doesnt sleep at all.....maybe a broken 2 or 3 hours a night Shows no interest in anything he used to love or enjoy Claims he has severe back pain but wont see a dr to get treated...uses it as an excuse not to work Wants to be ALONE! Spends all his time sitting by himself He's done some very concerning things trying to confront people about these delusions. Out of fear of being committed again, he has stopped most of this Bought some weird things that cost a lot of money One day he is depressed and doesnt move, the next day he is wired and outwardly phobic again He's spent most of his time searching for evidence of these plots against him. I am the only one that knows what he has been doing and saying this whole time. He has fooled most others. Now he is planning on leaving soon because he has been 'unhappy' with me. Though if you ask him, he cant say why he is unhappy, or when it started, or what he wants instead or what he plans on doing with his life. He just yells...."I just want to be alone!!" Does ANYONE here have experience with something like this? I am so concerned for him. I am gutted he wants a divorce and will be leaving me soon. I fear he will never get better without medication and that he will never see what is really going on. I believe he needs his family and friends to show some tough love at this point and get him medical care!!! The family doesnt believe me and doesnt seem to want to believe there is anything wrong with him. I dont want to make this longer than I have, but believe me, they wont notice things and he wont ever confide in anyone. He is hell bent on never getting treated and never going back to a dr. He will lie cheat and steal to make sure that doesnt happen I hope that some of your replies might help the family recognize some of these symptoms and start to truly recognize that the problem isnt me.....its an illness that should and can be treated!! Thank you!