[collinsmi]

Lots of good advice here! I used to think there was some strength of character involved with stopping, but now I think I was just lucky, Gods grace, whatever you want to call it I got scared enough to do this stuff. THere was always this disassociation from what I said or thought, and what was going on around me. I might have thought I wanted this or that, or thought I was serious about recovery, but I got to the point where I was unable to distinguish between what I wanted to think and do and what I did. Wanting to want this is not enough. It's hard to remember back to those days, but that's what it seems like now.

At any rate, you can't make him get scared enough to do AA. You can, however, go to Alanon and not put up with his drinking. Like the others on here, that's what I'd recommend.