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chm760 · 07-24-2003, 03:00 PM

I know what you are talking about. I'm on the other side of that situation though, my girlfriend is bi polar, we often argue allot about the smallest things. I would never cheat on her, I fell in love with her from the first time I saw her, I've helped her through tough times, she's going through the 12 steps right now for her crack addiction, I've been there, I know how hard it is, but she can do it, just one day at a time! She too feels that she’s not worthy or she feels that she shouldn't have someone in her life, but I made a promise to myself that I will be as patient as I possibly can, and that I know what she is saying during her depression she really doesn't mean. I take the time, and I hold her when I possibly can, like its the last day of my life, and I tell her I love her, no matter what. She too has had to be patient with me and my frustration, she’s been off her meds now for 4 years, and its been hard on her. Her husband left her because of a pill addiction, and I won't do that to her. I understand how you feel that maybe the relationship is a co dependent thing, I too fear that, you should probably get back on your medication, and take time to wonder if your in love or in love with the idea of being in love. I'll ponder that with you, I to wonder if I'm in love with her or just afraid of being alone.

07-24-2003, 03:00 PM	#2 (permalink)
chm760 Paused Join Date: Jul 2003 Location: Galveston, TX Posts: 12	Co Dependent I know what you are talking about. I'm on the other side of that situation though, my girlfriend is bi polar, we often argue allot about the smallest things. I would never cheat on her, I fell in love with her from the first time I saw her, I've helped her through tough times, she's going through the 12 steps right now for her crack addiction, I've been there, I know how hard it is, but she can do it, just one day at a time! She too feels that she’s not worthy or she feels that she shouldn't have someone in her life, but I made a promise to myself that I will be as patient as I possibly can, and that I know what she is saying during her depression she really doesn't mean. I take the time, and I hold her when I possibly can, like its the last day of my life, and I tell her I love her, no matter what. She too has had to be patient with me and my frustration, she’s been off her meds now for 4 years, and its been hard on her. Her husband left her because of a pill addiction, and I won't do that to her. I understand how you feel that maybe the relationship is a co dependent thing, I too fear that, you should probably get back on your medication, and take time to wonder if your in love or in love with the idea of being in love. I'll ponder that with you, I to wonder if I'm in love with her or just afraid of being alone.