Wow, I loved your post. Thank you. I can't tell you what's right for you, and I doubt if your therapsts can either.
I smoked in my twenties, quit cold turkey, and stayed quit for about 17 years. Started smoking again three years ago. I quit smoking back in May. I gained about ten pounds, because I have always dabbled with addictive behavior, usually sustituting one with another.
but this time I started to read about twelve step programs. I discovered, I am more codependent than addictive, but am beginning to think that they are just two sides of the same diseased coin. I fit the 13 characteristics of an adult child, even though I am the adult child of an adult child. I think I am an "emotional" alcoholic, but don't behave like an alcoholic at all.
But here's the catch, since doing this work, I have stopped behaving like a food addict (which i have behaved all my life). I lost ten pounds. I stopped wanting to drug myself, which I have craved all my life. All of my addictive and controlling behaviors are spotlighted to me in ways they haven't ever been. It's like I hit a disease bottom, and the whole process has to be done differently now.
I know what it feels like to want to do it all.
Only you can know if it's right for you. Listen to your heart. The higher power speak through your inner child.
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