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Originally Posted by hoobie I've been really busy with my job and have been feeling overwhelmed.
Last Saturday I celebrated my 30 day sobriety by having a glass of wine.
......I really REALLY wanted some more wine.....
So here I am, relaxing and really wanting a drink. Why can't I have one? It's saturday night and I deserve it. I wouldn't get loaded-just a few glasses... |
Right now it sounds like you have an unhealthy relationship with wine/alcohol. It is perfectly normal to feel over-whelmed by work, and it is great to go out with your husband for a nice meal, but "celebrating" a sobriety date with a glass is probably a pretty good indicator that you need to look at how alcohol is currently involved/influencing your life. As a general rule of thumb, if you NEED something and have to rationalize it.....then you probably need to take a step back and ask why.
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Originally Posted by hoobie I then went to the psychiatrist and told him about my drinking and said that I'm trying to abstain. He shrugged it off and didn't seem concerned. |
Did you ask explicitly about his position on your drinking? He might think your drinking is result of your heightened level of anxiety, and if he can address that, it will eliminate your insistant need to drink. (I think it just makes it less apparent, without changing anything about how you think of alcohol)
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Originally Posted by hoobie I'm happy I'm finally addressing these problems. I turned down plans with a friend tonight because I just wanted some mellow, alone time (husband is out). |
Excellent! It is great to have days/night just for yourself. These can be great for recharging and refocusing.
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Originally Posted by hoobie 30 days seemed do-able, but thinking that I may not have another drink ever again is really hard to deal with. |
Depending on what school of thought you subscribe to about alcohol use/abuse, it may not have to be your last drink ever.....HOWEVER until you change your relationship with alcohol by using it as a crutch, the connection to "needing" it to relax, etc....then you probably shouldn't have any.
Hopefully you will continue seeing your therapist, and you can take some time to explore the role of alcohol in your life, and also develop some better coping mechanisms to better manage your anxieties.
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