[Mamabear]

Thanks for your encouragement caveman. I have never used a messageboard before so I'm pretty slow at this. Basically we told him that we will not pay for anymore school till he's clean and that he'll have monthly blood and or urines. We also took away the priviledge of driving our cars as we feel it's unsafe for him and for others. Frankly, he sees this as an attempt to control him. We don't want to subsidize his use. But I don't see this working....at least not yet. He's very depressed and starting to look and buy into the grunge look. Believe me when I say this is shocking for all who knew him in the past. He has amazing leadership abilities, an incredible personality, screamin high sat's, and really good looks.
I'm trying to take care of myself through this but that's no easy task. Although I love him so much, I was able to tell him I will not go down with him.
Do you have a relationship w/ family now?
Sometimes I think he needs inpatient care but he's too old for us to compell it as parents.
I'm trying hard not to give up hope....