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Caveman · 07-15-2003, 08:24 PM

You sound like you could be describing me about 20 years ago. I cannot tell you what will work for you, I can only tell you what worked for me.

In a nut shell, tough love. He needs to get clean and that means he can use nothing. Over time, his using will get worse and the person that he was, the person that he still can be will be gone.

He is a young man with a difficult disease. Lay out the ground rule of getting clean. Test him if you need to. If he can't get clean kick him out. Although you should support his college endevors, if he is getting high every day, he is not serious about life. Therefore I beleive that you do not have the obligation to support him in a material way.

My story is much longer than that, and it does have a happy ending, but it is not a happy story, but that is it in a nut shell.

07-15-2003, 08:24 PM	#2 (permalink)
Caveman Paused Join Date: Apr 2003 Location: Milwaukee WI Posts: 20	You sound like you could be describing me about 20 years ago. I cannot tell you what will work for you, I can only tell you what worked for me. In a nut shell, tough love. He needs to get clean and that means he can use nothing. Over time, his using will get worse and the person that he was, the person that he still can be will be gone. He is a young man with a difficult disease. Lay out the ground rule of getting clean. Test him if you need to. If he can't get clean kick him out. Although you should support his college endevors, if he is getting high every day, he is not serious about life. Therefore I beleive that you do not have the obligation to support him in a material way. My story is much longer than that, and it does have a happy ending, but it is not a happy story, but that is it in a nut shell.