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Old 08-21-2006, 10:08 AM   #7 (permalink)
Phinneas
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Originally Posted by prodigal
All of you in recovery: You have to want sobriety bad enough, but I'm watching a guy who is extremely well educated and a meritoriously decorated Army officer many times over throw it out on a bottle of booze.

... I'd appreciate it if someone could explain the workings of an addict's mind to a non-addict, at least from the perspective that someone is willing to toss everything out for the bottle.
Hi, Prod. My opinion (based on my own lived experience) is that NO program of recovery will work - AA or otherwise, until he is willing to WORK a program as if his life depends on it (which it does).

There is a good reason that we often get to AA from death's door - because we need to grasp onto it "as the drowning grasp a life preserver." Yes, a person can come into AA committed to change and change. But a program of recovery is HARD, not easy, so there must be some really big motivation.

His staying sober is between him and god, Prod. I wish there was a better answer, but there's just not.
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