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Hi ranae,
The way you describe it, it does not sound like he believes what he said or that he meant to hurt you in any way. I hope that makes it less painful. Still, I agree that he should respect your feelings and your wishes on the subject. I have gained a lot of weight this year and a lot of people comment on it. It has been very hurtful, even though I don't believe they meant to hurt me. If an enemy made the same comment and I believed it to be deliberately hurtful, that takes it to a whole new level of pain. A few months ago I ended a friendship with someone who repeatedly disrespected my wishes. I used to be very close to her. It has been very hard to stay away from her and sometimes I contemplate patching things up, but I know that would be futile. She seems unwilling to change her ways and I have grown strong enough to not put up with it. I deserve better and you do too. I'm not suggesting you go to the extreme of cutting him out of your life. It might help if you look for other options, like immediately walking out of the room or ending your conversation with him for the rest of the day, or asking him to leave each time he acts like this. Sometimes adults have to be taught just like children that their bad behavior will not slide by without consequences.