There are no rules. The only requirement for membership is that you be alcoholic (and only you can determine that) and that you have a desire to stop drinking. The are some requirements to be met in order to recover, but these are along the lines of conforming one's will & life to spiritual principles, not man made rules. And you are free to conform to these principles or not.
Many find that they cannot maintain a contented sobriety, or even maintain sobriety at all unless they conform to the principles embodied in the Twelve Steps. Once again, you are free to take the steps or not. My advice would be to talk an AA member who seems to know what they are talking about when it comes to the steps. Best wishes and hope you find your truth.
Jim